Girls at the Gym or places similar to it

[SexPanda!]

I'm an avid gym goer, especially since I'm planning on being a physical therapist later on, so I'm in the gym A LOT, like around 3 or more times a week. If you've been to the gym, you will know that there is no better place to see the potential of what LuluLemon pants can do to a girl when she does squats and stretches.

I have a major limiting belief when it comes to approaching girls in the gym and starting a conversation, mainly because I believe that their defenses are high (there are tons of other jacked up guys going around look macho, trying to impress girls) and also, they're are there to do one thing: exercise.

I can already hear Cam and Kevin screaming in my ear, "If you're a cool guy, she will welcome the opportunity to stop what their doing and have fun". Being at the point in my game, I'm still a bit hesitant.

Any successes with approaching girls, who are in the gym, and closing?

The thing that holds me back is the factor of seeing the girl again because the gym is a place where girls can come again regularly, as opposed to bars and clubs; therefore, a little more tact needs to be used.

Thoughts?

[Bjorn]

I think it is important to make a good impression on the girl. It will benefit you in a long term. It does not matter much where you are approaching, you have to do the same steps. Open, qualify, attraction, comfort and close. I came to the kiss close at gym once, but it is hard sometimes. Also it depends on the gym and the local environment. Probably UofC gym is good for pick up, but MRC is not so. Still if you make yourself a social center of the room, your chances are higher.

[elektro]

Same game, different approach. Now, of course, if Brad Pitt walks into the gym, is the girl going to stop what she's doing? Fuck yes.

But, let's go with a more realistic alternative. As you said, girls frequent the same gym a lot. Perfect, let's use this to our advantage. I would use the same tactic as one that is successful with industry staff. Befriend them first, talk to them casually over a period of time (a week or two), and then get the close. Keep it casual. Small talk is key, but NOT being outcome oriented is huge!

Just be a cool guy who she's friends with, and then once you get her out of the gym, let the real game begin.

[spin]

This is speaking more from observation and not experience..so take it with a grain of salt. I'm a gym regular (5-6 days a week).

Try and catch her after her workout. Before or during people tend to have a strong sense of purpose/drive and it can really throw you off having people try and make conversation, usually resulting in annoyance not attraction. After she's finished up she should be a little more relaxed, have a clear mind and be much more receptive.

But this isn't to say you couldn't try and make some light situational conversation before or during the workout just to see how receptive she is, who knows maybe she is willing to stop and chat halfway through a workout.

[Kiluminati]

(05-28-2009 11:33 AM)spin Wrote:  This is speaking more from observation and not experience..so take it with a grain of salt. I'm a gym regular (5-6 days a week).

Try and catch her after her workout. Before or during people tend to have a strong sense of purpose/drive and it can really throw you off having people try and make conversation, usually resulting in annoyance not attraction. After she's finished up she should be a little more relaxed, have a clear mind and be much more receptive.

But this isn't to say you couldn't try and make some light situational conversation before or during the workout just to see how receptive she is, who knows maybe she is willing to stop and chat halfway through a workout.

Seems to make alot of sense!

[SexPanda!]

Sounds great guys, I'll try to chat up with some of the girls at the gym just to build comfort and rapport. Now it's just a matter of when to start the small talk, when is a good time? Obviously, not while she's working out or where she's exerting herself. So while she's moving from machine to machine or while she enter and leaves the gym then?

[elektro]

WATER BREAKS!

[BiggieSmalls]

I've done some gym approaches before. They're nerve racking just as any other approach is. I didn't have a plan of attack I just felt a vibe(getting looks and shit) rolled up at what seemed like the appropriate moment, talked a little then got the digits. Sometimes taking the cardio machine next to them is a good way to get a convo going, unless they're wearing headphones.

[skelletor]

1) Watch her routine than time her so you end up on the same machine (avoid treadmills, hard to talk for you and her).
2) Wear headphones so you don't have to talk to her too much, and work out with her (just throw some subtle attraction triggers at her).
3) Finally, time her on the way out. Simply get her name and go for an insta-date (at the exit). Obviously you wanna do this towards the end of the week or on the weekend.

Personally, I often feel tempted to pick-up girls at the gym but stay away unless a girl is really obviously trying to get me to approach. You don't want to be seen picking her up in the gym. It is not like the bar, it will make you stale to the other girls. It is a major LF thing if a girl is picked up by the same guy who did this a couple of weeks ago in front of everyone with a different chick!

More to be said about 2 and 3. Let me know if you need more information (:

[cobra]

(05-28-2009 11:33 AM)spin Wrote:  This is speaking more from observation and not experience..so take it with a grain of salt. I'm a gym regular (5-6 days a week).

Try and catch her after her workout. Before or during people tend to have a strong sense of purpose/drive and it can really throw you off having people try and make conversation, usually resulting in annoyance not attraction. After she's finished up she should be a little more relaxed, have a clear mind and be much more receptive.

But this isn't to say you couldn't try and make some light situational conversation before or during the workout just to see how receptive she is, who knows maybe she is willing to stop and chat halfway through a workout.

Ah this is so true. I try and go to the gym every other day, and the thing about the gym is, ALOT of the SAME dudes. Even when I sprained my wrist and didn't go for a week, I'd come back the next week and see the same familar faces. And these dudes try and talk to every chick in the gym with out any avail.

I should go there more often to study while working out, to try and find a pattern.