Calgary, who/ages?

[canadianguyy]

Well lets get this started doesnt look like there is much action on forums and there is a greeting one already but Who all lives in calgary/age

Me obviously but I am 23 at MRU... lost haha so back to work till I sort some shit out.
Actually what kinda jobs do you all hold as well, looking for something new/fun myself! just starting in pu world

[elektro]

Welcome to the forum.

Activity is slower right now, due to it being December. Students have exams and everyone else gets pretty busy around this time. January has always been a month where activity picks up a lot again, with plenty of new members signing up as well. The majority of members will be living in Calgary currently, with a few in the surrounding areas (Edmonton, Red Deer, Lethbridge). It's perfect that you are 23, as I would say that's right around the average age on here. Although the age varies from 18 to 30+. Solid group on here.

Looking forward to meeting you!

Elektro

[Prodigy]

Going to sait (living on campus), 19 and just finished my finals!!!

[Donny]

I'm down to sarge, now that I have all this time after finals

[canadianguyy]

We should all set up a time/place (seems there is a standing invitation to a bar on 17th not sure if people still hit it up or not) but I am going through a rough patch of my game and back a square 1... goto hit up a mall or something and kick the AA.

on another note, What kinda material do you guys use for DHV'ing I have little to no social proof a few female friends and redeveloping it. Decent physical condition/looks, learning guitar, little bit of an atist flair thinking about starting up some of my own designs on shirts and such till I get a good one I want for my Tat... which will end up being 4+... stupid addictions.

Anyways Looking for any quick shot gambits for DHV for amateurs night (newyears eve) at small/medium party friend of a friend is throwing, be showing up with a girl I have previously closed HB7-8 Be a good place to test material/strats just seem to be lacking. Half decent at cold reads naturally when I am not too in my head.

[Dr.Pua]

(12-24-2009 12:08 AM)canadianguyy Wrote:  We should all set up a time/place (seems there is a standing invitation to a bar on 17th not sure if people still hit it up or not) but I am going through a rough patch of my game and back a square 1... goto hit up a mall or something and kick the AA.

on another note, What kinda material do you guys use for DHV'ing I have little to no social proof a few female friends and redeveloping it. Decent physical condition/looks, learning guitar, little bit of an atist flair thinking about starting up some of my own designs on shirts and such till I get a good one I want for my Tat... which will end up being 4+... stupid addictions.

Anyways Looking for any quick shot gambits for DHV for amateurs night (newyears eve) at small/medium party friend of a friend is throwing, be showing up with a girl I have previously closed HB7-8 Be a good place to test material/strats just seem to be lacking. Half decent at cold reads naturally when I am not too in my head.

One thing that's really good for your game that you might not have picked up on that you do, is genuinely admit your short-comings. If anyone here on the forum reads "Canadianguyy"s post again, notice the separation of who he is, and what he wants to do.

Canadianguyy:

Here you are asking how to DHV. Which blatantly means, you're asking, "What do you guys do, in order to look "Higher Value" in front of someone who doesn't know you yet.

Let someone who doesn't know you yet, to discover on their own how high value you are. If they don't discover it on their own, they're not worth your "specific" time. Maybe for someone else, but not yours. PROVIDED, that you're being yourself. Being and acting like how you naturally feel like acting in that given moment.

"At the end of the day, if you're looking for someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you DON'T want someone who ONLY likes and respects you when you've PLANNED stuff. You want someone who will like and respect you EVEN during times where you're unsure and are winging things. This chick, is someone who YOU will love and respect forever. The only way you can NOT love and respect any human being who Sincerely and Genuinely likes and respects you, is when you yourself, do NOT like and respect yourself."

If the above is true, then Genuinely and Sincerely loving yourself, for GOOD reasons should be one of your FIRST priorities.

The "Elusive Obvious" that I was mentioning at the beginning of the post, is that you are asking us, the people on the forum, how to look cool. Where while you're asking it, you've risked, NOT looking cool by admitting that you want to learn how to "look cool".

This is awesome by the way, since this means that you actually ARE a cool guy, naturally. Contrary to popular belief, (And you will see this when you reflect upon this) is that when you openly, and blatantly admit your weaknesses, with "Neutral Confidence"(Which you've done so here)...

THAT is WHAT'S COOL!

Ask yourself this:

When have you EVER felt 100% GOOD around someone who has just let you know(whether on purpose, OR by accident) that he or she is better than you in ANY way? And by 100%, I mean there is not 1 INCH, of you feeling any ENVY, JEALOUSY, or GUILT, that you have not been able to achieve the same as this person.

Hardly ever is what I'll say. Yeah, you can chalk it up to "self-esteem", but you also don't want to be running through life consciously blind by ALWAYS telling yourself you're amazing no matter who you run into. I mean, positive thinking is good, but you also don't want to be running into a guy like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Anderson Silva, Bruce Lee, Lebron James, Wayne Gretzky, Michael Jordan...and be saying to yourself, "There's nothing these guys have that I don't. If people just saw what I see in myself, nobody would be worshiping these people!"

Well, these guys do/did have something that you don't. A HUGE goal that is/was even bigger than themselves, and they put the blinders on and went for it.

I'll land the plane for the sake of attention spans:

One of the best DHV's you can do Canadianguyy, is by showing your shortcomings, or things in which you think would "Lower your Value", in a "Neutral Confident" way.

If you go up to a super hot chick, and the first thing you tell her is that, "I can't believe I'm even up here doing this. You've probably had 20 guys already tonight, and it's only 10:30pm, come up to you and try to hit on ya, but I'm an idiot, and I genuinely don't know when the best time to hit on a chick like you is, so I'm doing it now, and crossing my fingers and hoping for the best. Well not actually crossing my fingers cause I talk with my hands all the time and it would've looked weird if they were crossed no?"

That was just off the cuff. But I guarantee you that ANY chick would at LEAST be smiling. Probably laughing. But if you laugh as well, that means you're laughing at yourself. You've probably heard before from some real power houses in life, that you need to learn how to laugh at yourself. Well, this would be one of those times. Ask any natural "ladies man" you know, and they will tell you to stop taking yourself so seriously.

And guess what, let's say after you say something like this, she starts to laugh AT you. But then, genuinely, you start to laugh AT yourself as well, at the same time...

Are you not SHARING a laugh about the same thing now?

How good does it feel to share a laugh with someone?

Some of you skeptics might be saying, "But you have said stuff that made you look like and AFC!"

Most of you on the forum already know, that the actual words you say matter very little. The way you say things means absolutely everything. If you sound "Neutrally Confident" while saying this, she will pick up on your confidence, and not what you have said about yourself.

At the end of the day, if I told you guys I was AMAZING, most of you wouldn't believe me.

But if I told you guys that I was the worst ladies man on the planet, most of you wouldn't believe me either.

Which do you want to trigger?

This is why Humility is such a likable character trait. Be humble boys. Nobody likes a bragger.(ahmm! a guy who is TRYINGto DHV)

If you try this. Going up to the chick that YOU YOURSELF thinks is the hottest chick at the bar, and blatantly telling her that you think so, and that you are unusually nervous at the present moment, unusually because you wouldn't be nervous talking to the girl who is standing over at the bar over there, or even that waitress who you have no idea why they would hire a chick who looks like that, but you're nervous with her. If you do this, and this is what you're ACTUALLY thinking at the time, IT WILL COME ACROSS CONFIDENT.

CONFIDENT, because that was EXACTLY what you were thinking at the time. And confidence stems from doing and saying things in which you feel you needed to do or say at that given moment. Which are the things in which you literally think and feel.

Let it out. For:

“Be Who You Are and Say What You Feel Because Those Who Mind Don't Matter and Those Who Matter Don't Mind.” -Theodor Seuss Geisel

Happy Holidays Boys! Hope you're all enjoying the snow and cold weather over in Cow Town. It's still only 0 degrees Celsius and no snow on the ground over here in T.O. haha suckers.